Hello,
I am so so sorry for your loss, and am in a similar situaition like you. I lost my mother june27 '08 to ovarian cancer, and am not coping at all. As my mother lay lifeless in the other room, and I was crying and screaming, my aunt came up to me and told me she would be there for me just like my mom was. I thought to myself thank god I will have someone look after me like my mother did, but in the back of my head I still knew that she would gradually astrange herself from me fairly quickly, afterall she could hardly maintain a close relationship with her own daughter. Its been 3 months or so since my mother left me, and my aunts phone calls are becoming more scarce. Although my granmother still keeps in touch, she keep the conversation to a minimum of 5min or so. I know me and grandma are taking my moms passing the hardest, and although she doesnt say anything about it, I know that at times she doesnt want to hear my voice, for the fact is I, look,sound, laugh, & cry just like my mom. So I guess I cant really blame her, but I lost the only true family I had, my mom. I wish you and others didnt have to go through this, my prayers are with you, stay strong. God help us all. -HUGS-