I am at a loss of how to help. My husband's estranged mother has been diaganosed with stage 4 bowel/colon cancer. He has never been close to his mother, whom he has blamed for his horrible childhood. Now at the age of 36 he is faced with the death of his mother, who was never there for him. But, she is still his mother,so of course he is concerned with her well being. He has started to become involved in her treatment, and is now obsessed with the idea of cancer and losing her. He is not sleeping through the night and every morning he wakes up telling me of dreams he had about his mother and cancer. After years of hearing about how much he dislikes his mother, I am understanding how scared he is of losing her. I am not close to my mother-in-law at all...but i realize how much this is affecting him. I don;t know how to act? Do I just be ultra-supportive no matter what? What can I do to ease his pain? What is the right course of action to support my husband entirely?