Mary Ann,
Hi! Sorry to her about your brother. I am glad I seen your message. I have a dear friend who's brother has been diagnosed with oral cancer. They are in the first steps right now because they just found out from a sore and note in his mouth. There is a tumor that has to be removed but now they are having a Cat Scan to see if it has spread anywhere else in the body. My friend has been on all websites she can find about oral cancer. I think it would be good for her to be able to talk to someone who could give her news from experience. She also had a mother she took care of who died of stomach cancer. Maybe this can help her than her thinking he's just dieing and nothing can help.