<>This doesn
t sound like your problem, it sounds like your father's.
I
feel for you, seems like all you can do is try to be supportive but
don't buy into their nutsiness and/or selfishness. Maybe it's just
panic.
In any case, try not to get too emotionally
invested in all their stuff. Maybe do the old "repeat their concerns
back to them with a question mark" and let them rave on.
Try not to take it too personally.