Hi, first of all I am so sorry for what you are going through. My mom passed 6/8/07 after only being diagnosed with nsclc in march. Although this is a very hard topic to be discussing its something that you must do. BUT it doesn't sound like you are at that point yet, then again with this horrible disease you never know. It will make it easier to have arrangements ahead of time- It is a very hard thing to do. I made my moms arrangements the day before she passed- hardest thing i have ever done, but I had to talk my step-father into it he didn't want to do it yet. My mother was bedridden, could not move, talk, eat, or drink. Her blood pressure was very very low, her fingers were starting to turn blueish, and hospice said it would be anytime. But 2 weeks before she was walking around, she was OK. After the radiation treatments,a hospital stay because the ca metased to her shoulder (and it fractured) She had one chemo tx after all that- and then 1 week later that was it. I am truly sorry for what you are going through, I know all to well your pain, just hang in there, you will get through it. There will be bad days, ok days, days that just suck, and so on. Tracy