On 9/6/2007
Danaray wrote:
My mother has been released from her oncologist to Hospice. She is still alert, able to get up to the bathroom (with our help), eat food & drink fluids, take medications......she is not in a lot of pain, so doesn't have to be drugged up.....she just sleeps alot. She is not throwing up. She is just getting weaker. She has liver cancer which is not operable & the nexavar she was on allowed a bone metastesis to her leg, so they took her off it. My sister & I have been approached by our stepdad (he is really our acting father) regarding arranging my mom's funeral! I am nowhere near that point in the loss of my mother. No one has given us a timeframe.........but my when my grandmother passed away from liver cancer, she spent about a month in a coma like state.....so I figured that's where we would be before talking about a funeral. Does anyone have any suggestions for me.......has anyone lost a loved one to liver cancer at home w/Hospice that might know their state of mind when they passed. Any help at all would be greatly appreciated. I don't really know where else to go & thought I'd try all of you.....
Hi Danaray,
I know your pain and understand why you would be hesitant to make arrangments now. My husband has been fighting Kidney cancer for a year now, he was stage IV upon diagnosis. He is now on Hospice and is slowly loosing the battle. I don't want to accept or let go, but as hard as it was I did call the funeral director and make semi arrangements. I feel that it will be too difficult of a time once it happens. If my husband last 6 more months, than praise the lord, but either way, I dont want to do it when he passes. I have not signed contracts or given money, just made contact and discussed what we want done. It was a very hard phone call for me to make and I actually could not finish it so I am now corresponding with the funeral director by email. Something to think about. God Bless and I pray you find peace in your decision.
Debbie