On 9/17/2007
lizam1968 wrote:
Hi Ronnaj1,
I just found out last Thursday that my father has uncurable or terminal cancer too. I am stunned and thinking the same thing. I was the one who took him in the ER on the weekend before and I thought he had just a stomache ache. It ends ups not to be in his colon but started outside and spread to his liver, pancreas, lymps and possibly the stomach. He just had surgery to have a portion of his colon removed. We are meeting with pathology and the onconologist tomorrow or Tuesday. I started out hopeful that they would be able to treat it but once they went in it's a Stage 4 and we are not sure what to do ? I don't know what to say. I am so sad. He looks so tired and depressed all the sudden. It was quite a shock. He's healing from the surgery. We are not sure how long he has had it. Nothing ever showed up on his test.
I am so scared. My mother is devastated. I want to be able to stay hopeful but I am not sure what is going to happen.
I am here to get some information and trying to grasp for something.
I hope we can stay in touch. My prayers go out to you and your family.
Lisa
Hi Lisa,
How are things? I'm sorry I haven't been in touch I've been finding things difficult to talk about.
My dad has now reached a stage where he is lying in bed unable to do much. He is very weak and thin and says he just wants it all over. He's very clingy towards me, I think it's fear. I just wish I new how long it is going to take. He's also very confused which I presume is all part of this disease.
Ican't understand why this didn't show up in earlier tests. To be a dying man to me means he must have had this a long time and they failed to find it. I know we all try to blame someone but I can't help feeling that this is someones fault.
I'm sorry I can't help you with your problems or answer any questions for you, but I just need to tell someone how I feel, I hope you don't mind.
Speak to you againg soon
Helen