On 11/18/2007
Gaily wrote:
On 9/14/2007
ronnaj1 wrote:
My Dad has been suffering terrible pain for weeks, heartbreaking to watch. He previously had 2 operations for enlarged prostate which were unsuccesful as he needed a permanent catheter. to cut a long story short after 3 long weeks in hospital we have now been told he only has 2 months to live. The cancer is secondry in the liver and they say they can't be sure of the primary source. They say it is too far advanced for treatment but I just can't accept that. Is it often worth getting a second opinion not really to dispute the diagnosis but to see if anything can be done to help him and hopefully extend his life providing his quality of life is going to be reasonable?
Also can anyone help me with trying to cope with a very emotional Dad who is worrying himself about leaving us? What do I say to him to try and make things better or do I encourage him to let his emotions out. I'm struggling to to watch my dad, who I love dearly, cry his eys out.
Thanks for reading my message and I look forward to any replys, they will be gratefully received.
Ronnaj1
So Sorry to hear your sad news,
My father has been diagnosed with secondry liver cancer which has possible come from colectoral cancer (but not conclusive).
My father is trying to be brave for everyone but the other day I made him a large picture board with lots of photographs of family and friends on it. It is the first time he had cried. I was heartbroken myself seeing him break down.
I know exactly how you feel .
The only thing I would suggest is making sure they concentrate on themselves . Hope you don't mind me asking but how is your Father now?
A good thing to help them feel as calm as possible is meditation c.d's. My father has always been fit and able and always on the go so it has been a miracle to see him quite relaxed listening to his meditation music.
Does your Father suffer dizzy spells?
I think it is best to cry as much as possible but I understand how you must feel seeing your Dad cry.
I have sought a second opinion for my Father but fear it will come too late.
You take care
Regards Gail (England)
Hi Gail,
Sorry it has taken me so long to reply. My dad died on November 29th and I haven't been able to entre the site until now. We never got to get a second opinion for dad because he became too weak, the trouble is I can't help blaming myself. I wish I could have done more.
How are things with you?
Regards
Ronnaj1 (Helen from Wales)