We are going thru this now. Mom has stage 4 colon cancer with mets to the liver. She developed an obstruction in her duodenum about 6 weeks ago and a feeding tube had to be inserted. Well after about a week or so of that, she could no longer handle the feeding tube. She stopped the tube feedings and called in hospice. She has not had any food or water for approx. 7 to 8 days. Because of the acites fluid accumulating in her belly, (she was vomitting alot) she had to go into a nursing home to have it drained every few hours. At that point, I knew I could not care for her at home. It was over my head. I felt bad, but I didn't know what else to do, and hospice recommended she be put into a nursing home. We all thought with no food or water, she would go quickly, but she hasn't. This is hell for us. When will it ever end! When we saw her yesterday, she cried and told us she was scared because she didn't know where she was, nothing looking familiar. It is gut wrenching to think she is in a strange place and is scared. But she keeps asking where she is, I guess because of the meds she doesn't remember us telling her where and why she is there. How long can someone go without noursishment? When will this hell end for her and for all of us?