My mother was just recently dianosed with O.cancer, stage four.
I
am so new to this and never thought she would ever get sick. She did
and with one of the worst cancers for women. I am scared, feel hopless,
numb, etc...
She had her first chemo treatment monday.
Thought she did well, but it was a long 6 1/2 hour day. I guess the
first one is long. Well, she started to throw-up the next morning and
until the day after. Her vomit was a dark chocolate color. I was
worried thinking it was maybe internal bleeding. But from what the
nurses had told us, if she is throwing up that looks like coffe grinds
then be alarmed. She was not throwing up the "coffee grinds."
We
finally decided to take her in to the er and they jumped to her giving
her iv's for dehydration, reverse her cumadin for blood thinners (her
blood was so thin), 4 units of plasma, etc. She was bleeding
internally. Is this common for someone going through chemo? I heard it
can be, It was so awful to see my mom in this condition, Never have and
it scared me.
One nurse told my sister and I to be prepared for the "bumps in the road."
Will
she and can she recover from this? I know there is no cure, but is
there hope? She looked awful, but is now in good hands. The prior
hospital we took her to was not a great experience. I felt they just
really did not care. Granted, I do like her oncologist, but felt the
whole situation at the hospital was negative. Not a good feeling.
We are also integrating the alterntive stuff as well.
I
know the first treatment is suppose to be bad, but she had all these
problems that persisted. Just when I thought I could be somewhat
strong, the news that she had cancer, then something else comes up.
What
to do? The nurse suggested that we go to support groups and then we had
another nurse tell us that my mom's cancer is bad and that support
groups may not help. And she also mentioned that the chemo is just
probably giving her comfort and will shrink the tumors but that too is
also to give her comfort.
I felt depressed and hopeless after I
heard that from her. We just stopped to ask her about the chemo clinic
that they offered at the hospital because we want to transfer my mom to
that hospital. She was a chemo clinic nurse. After a brief
conversation, she mentioned all this stuff to us. I felt like crying.
I
sometimes feel strong and other times I do not. I cry and feel no
strength. But when I do log onto this site and read a lot of research
on many other sites with stats and survivors, I gain my hope back.
Such a long note, but I needed to confide in someone.
Any advice and hope would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.