Hi Eileen,
I'm so sorry about your husband's cancer and his uncompassionate doctor. I actually do not have a similar experience. My oncologist was very, very encouraging and had a very good bedside manner. I know you say that this is the only oncology facility in town...what about surrounding towns? Is there a cancer treatment center nearby? How often does your husband go for chemo? You have probably already researched all of this, but if not, it might be worth checking into facilities in other towns. If not, it may be time to speak with the oncologist in question and tell him that his negativity is causing distress with both of you. It so surprises me to hear of an oncologist who is not compassionate. You would think that someone who practices this particular specialty of medicine would be full of compassion--someone who wants to make a difference.
I wish you and your husband the best of luck and health.
Sincerely,
Mary