On 11/13/2007
Cropsey wrote:
Please help!
My husband and I want desperately to switch him to a different oncologist. The current physician is so very discouraging. We want to have someone who knows that the disease is serious but can talk to us with some compassion. This one only says things like "I can't guarantee you'll be here next year." This goes on at every visit. (My husband is on a chemo regimen.)
Today, my husband spoke with the manager of the office and asked to change doctors. She called back saying that she spoke to the doctor we requested, and he said that the current physician is a good one and that he is giving the correct treatment. We know that. That's not the problem! It's his personality and lack of kindness.
What can we do? There's only the one office in our town. There are about 4 oncologists there, plus one who is a palliative care physician.
If anyone has had a similar issue please tell me how you dealt with it.
Thank you so much......
Eileen
Hi Eileen:
Take heart! This is a common complaint - and it also is just another case of an oncologist "covering his a--" and it means nothing. Don not fear that death is near! The conflict is this in a nutshell:
1) Some of these dummies believe in the concept of "give it to 'em straight. I don't want anybody saying I didn't tell 'em that this could happen..." - later after the fact, and something dire actually did occur (which it probably won't - but at least they can say: "I told you..."
2) The other side of the coin is that with cancer, a major part of the cure comes from the mind itself - really. The mind can and does cure the body. Very highly specialized oncologsts do not just rely on the chemistry and physical aspect of treatment. This is critical. Therefore, preparing you for the worst does nothing but hinder the cure - and aid the cancer! This is what you're being subjected to.
By all means change oncologists. If this means that you must travel, don't hesitate - DO IT! and do it NOW!
Cancer Treatment Centers of America (CTCA) works with ALL insurance. They also treat the WHOLE person - mind and body. They are possibly the most advanced cancer treatment facility in the world - REALLY! They have 5 locations in the USA. Go to one of them - at no cost to you!!
The NEVER "prepare you fo the worst" because they win most of the time - IF - the patient gets to them before it's too late. Time is rthe most important factor. They are a wonderful, caring organization.
Wehn we were diagosed initially, we had one of the dummies who said: "Probably 6 months - maybe a year. It will be painful." What a dope! Even though his diagnosis and treatment prescription were right on, our hope was gone and his delivery methods were strictly from the Dark Ages. We would have not made it. THEN we called CTCA and what an IMMEDIATE difference!! Today, 8 months later, the cancer is 90% GONE, we have our life back, and our quality of life is rich and full again! CTCA works "miracles" every day! They even believe in "laughter therapy" and have stand-up comedy every week for all patients!!
If you read this, spare your loved ones, call this number, and pack your bags. The journey back to health is wonderful!!
1-800-FOR-HELP (Ask for Jennifer - she will be your Angel of Mercy)
Good Luck and God Bless You