My husband's doctor was alot like yours. My husband was diagnosed over 2 years ago with stafe 4 colon cancer at age 35. His doctor continually made references to the him not being around in the future, The first time we ever met the dr. he gave my husband two years to live. Every time I tried to find some hope the dr shot us down. It got to the point that I would get sick when we would go see him for an appt. We found another dr an hour away at Ohio State but she wasn't any better and just echoed what the first dr said. Neither dr would do a PET scan because they "knew" that the spots on his liver were cancer, even though his enzymes weren't elevated and the they never changed size through a year of chemo. Through a lady on this board I found a new dr at Ohio State who was more of a general oncologist instead of specializing in just the colon. He is wonderful. We stopped seeing the other two dr.'s got the PET scan done, was told the spots on the liver weren't cancer they were cysts and stopped chemo. Two years from the diagnosis, almost to the day, instead of being dead, my husband and I had our third child. Long story short, it's hard at the time to know what to do but keep trying to find someone else even if you have to travel. Hope is such an important thing. Many doctors don't want to give it but once you find one that will it makes such a difficult time a little easier. Major universities are a good place to start looking for a better doctor. I wish you the best!