On 11/13/2007
Cropsey wrote:
Please help!
My husband and I want desperately to switch him to a different oncologist. The current physician is so very discouraging. We want to have someone who knows that the disease is serious but can talk to us with some compassion. This one only says things like "I can't guarantee you'll be here next year." This goes on at every visit. (My husband is on a chemo regimen.)
Today, my husband spoke with the manager of the office and asked to change doctors. She called back saying that she spoke to the doctor we requested, and he said that the current physician is a good one and that he is giving the correct treatment. We know that. That's not the problem! It's his personality and lack of kindness.
What can we do? There's only the one office in our town. There are about 4 oncologists there, plus one who is a palliative care physician.
If anyone has had a similar issue please tell me how you dealt with it.
Thank you so much......
Eileen
Some practices allow change of MD for personbality or emotional (or lack thereof) reasons which seems respectful. A good oncologistis kind and positive along with being medically adept. My sister's onc. will say "There's no gaurantees" but she will also offer hope. Who knows, maybe this guy was criticized for giving false hope. Your husband deserves kind treatment.
Hayes /Catherine