On 11/16/2007
Want2bstrong wrote:
I lost my father to stomach cancer last year. Yes, he had jaundice in the end - and also aspirational pneumonia, which was hard. The doctors told me that he was not in pain, as the tumor was not touching any nerve. So it is possible that your sister also won't have pain.
My father also had problems with bile - constant hiccups because the bile tried to get to his stomach and found an obstruction. He had a J-tube, was very alert. Could hear everything I said. But was weak and on ventilator for the pneumonia. He could hear everything I said. He couldn't speak due to ventilator. When I asked him to blink twice to show he understood what I said, he did.
At this time, be there for her - and show her your love. If she has concerns (like family, young children, other concerns), do reassure her and tell her that you will take care of everything - and she can let go. That she is going to a peaceful place. My father passed away peacefully.
Take care, and God bless.
Priya.
A big thankyou to everyone that has replied.......may i pass on my condolances to you that have loved ones passed....
my sister is not in pain....the stint that she has is blocked and the bile is now coming out of the wound and into a bag that the hospital put on her in emergency... it is more comfortable and is not so distressing....she is very sleepy but alert when she wakes....the only problem at the moment is the nausea.....
asking about the stages of death seems to be very gory but i feel i have to know where we are as my newphew is having a hard time with this and is going about as though his mother is going to be here for a time... i want him to spend as much time with her but he feels that if she is asleep then there is no need for him to be here.....
i feel that it wont be long for her she is not afraid and has told us she loves us...all i ask is that she keeps painfreeand will just go to sleep...
thank you again to all that have replied...it is very helpfull......