On 11/18/2007 buang wrote:
Karen, I really feel for you. I myself been betrayed by my husband with his co-worker 15 years ago. I have 3 children with this man. We 've been married for 39 years. all my children are grown now and have their own family. I am a grandmother of 7 good grandchildren. My husband's relationship with the children was in good term I guess. I manage to show my children that my husband and I have a good marriage but the truth of the matter is, it wasn't. It was very hard thing to do but I did it because after I'm long gone they still have that respect for their father. I am a lung cancer survivor for 12 years. I was just informed by the hospital that they discovered a very abnormal calsifications. suggesting higly suspected malignancy and I need to have a biopsy on my left breast. I did not want to do it. I don't want go down that road again all alone. Instead, I fixed all my papers and passport and I am going home. I fulfilled my obligation as a good wife and a good mother to my children with clear concience and lots of sacrifices for the love I have to my children. The point i'm trying to send out to you is, you have 2 young children who does not understand betrayal at this point. All that they know is their father is very ill and may lose his life at some point. If you turn your back away from him now, they might recent you and destroy your relationship with them thinking you left their father at the time their father needed you. They're very young to really comprehend what it is you're going thru. I know, it will be very hard to do but do your best and give it a try. You will be sacrificing and feel hurt through out but the benefit will be for the children and yours at the end. just tough it out. It might not be for a long term. You and you're children still have a long and bright life ahead of you. keep it mended. GOD BLESS YOU AND THE CHILDREN. buang
Buang,
I am definitely still going to try to do this keeping him around thing although I often times really can't stand it. Plus, it has taken a toll on me emotionally and physically. Honestly, I find myself morbidly counting on his dying sooner than later to help get through this. I'm so sorry for your recent awful news. I am glad to hear that you are going home for yourself. Thanks for your understanding. God Bless you and your extended family!
Karen