My 85 year old father died of gallbladder ca january of 07. His gb was removed Sept of 06. No doctor would come on out and tell him for sure what his future was. He chose chemo/radiation. The chemo dr did tell him,which i think was a lie, that even though he was stage 4, if she chose not to go through chemo, the cancer would return in two months. Like it was gone or something. Yes, I too along with my husband and my poor broken down back mom, took care of him at home. Other siblings mainly stayed away. I tried getting everyone to take turns to help, but it caused a family problems, leaving me feeling like I didnt have the right to be telling them what to do. Even the subject was brought up to my dad and he got mad at me. Told me by asking my brothers to help was worse than having a belly full of cancer!. That hurt me tremendously. Anyway, hospice came in to help, He hallucinated alot, Hollered for my mom constantly to help. Asked for us to shoot him because of the pain he was in. Eventually, I decided to have him taken back to the hospital because it became to heart wrenching for me to do this all alone and see my poor mom hobble to his bedside in pain herself. He passed with pneumonia at the hospital. I will never get the vision out of my head seeing him before he passed. I told him how I felt about him and to go ahead and go to Jesus. That mama would be taken care of . My mother is now living with me and doing ok.