On 12/30/2007 LAURAANDMIKE wrote:
i need some help to deal with my husband who has terminal cancer. i try to keep things as normal as possible but he rages at times and he will not try to see what we are dealing with. he only sees it from his point of view. the kids and i have so many worries about our future that itis hard at times to deal with. he will not acknowledge that we are having a hard time with this also! what can i do to keep my sanity and try to hold my kids and house together? any coping tips wil be great! i am at my wits end. he does not see a problem on his end only me and the kids. the kids are 20 and 16. thanks! laura
Laura, I am so sorry to hear about yor husband's diagnosis. I joined this support group because my 12 year old basset hound has cancer, I don't have children so he is my child. I am also a registered nurse, I deal with loss on a daily basis and it never gets easier. Your message was in my inbox so I felt like I needed to respond.It's hard for you & I to imagine what it feels like to receive a potentially fatal diagnosis. Your husband's anger is part of denial. As "the man" in the family, he is giving up his role of protecter and provider. That has gotta be hard, maybe when he is angry you could say something like " We just want to support you in your decisions, choices, etc.." He is probably angry at the world, as would I be. Just try to be patient and understanding. Don't let his words hurt you because it is probably said out of frustration. I will be praying for you. Karen