Call it what you will. but some of us feel many different emotions when confronted with difficult situations. It can be "labeled" as negative or whatever. Some people fish every post and look to slam anyone who may be distressed. People should not be encouraged to be negative however some people who share similar feelings should be able speak on a cancer blog that does not say (too bad if you deal with stress not in the way some others do then keep out} please do not fish here. if you have nothing but the desire to stifle anyone who is very upset and may be angry or discouraged. This site is for cancer caregivers patients and doctors and sometimes people have to go through phases to get into a better mindset, I am sure that if I were told I have a serious disease that my reaction would not be too positive. So please give us the chance to go through the necessary phases and most likely we will see a better way of dealing with a difficult situation like some others have been able to do PLEASE