Hi, Bobbi,
My heart is with you also. Those of us who read this board are the ones who probably share the greatest understanding, through our experiences.
I just want to say tha my husband died of cancer last May-our girls were only 18. Now the doctor has given me a "timeline" for my breast cancer, so they are in your place. We are living and loving every single moment, and treasuring each one. Each day we plan to do something happy together, and adapt it to how I feel. I think this is healing-love is very powerful-and I'm not "buying" the timeline-I'm fighting the disease the best I can. doctors are not gods-they can be wrong, and they have been wrong, and there's nothing wrong with hope. Carl Simonton and Bernie Seigel have written books about people who got timelines and lived many years, even went into remission. Hopefully I'll win, and my daughters won't have to go through this again. But even if I don't, we are making good memories every day, and that is worth a lot too. Don't live in fear-it won't change the future, and will make the present harder to bear. Look at your mom right now, enjoy her and love her, because this minute is all that's truly real anyway. You have her now, and you have her love forever. Love doesn't die, and as I told my daughters, if I don't make it, I will be somewhere loving them for sure-I know I will, and I know your mom will always be loveing you.
Sincerely,
Starshine