Hi Annie,
I don't know which way is best either. I am glad that in my mom's case it was out of our hands and the Dr made the decision for us. I believe in my heart my mother could not survive such a surgery and the Dr must have thought the same thing. It has been a year since she started her chemo and radiation and she is still cancer free as far as we know. Next CT is in March and I will be holding my breath again. I will pray for you and your husband. Keep us posted.
Pat