Hi I have read the other messages and just wanted to give a different perspecitve. Positivity as your husband has chosen is the best way to battle this I am certain. I myself was disgnosed with stomach cancer in Jan this year. Drs think I have had it a year before, yet I never felt nothing apart from indigestions. Like your husband I am young, a 42 year old female, was gym mad, happy, great social live many friends. No one expected me to have cancer, but I do. Still do now.
I have undergone 6 sessions of severe chemo, and much of the tumour reduced, but I still have spreads in the peritoneium and they dont do surgery when that happens. But let me tell you, I have been on 20 aeroplain journeys since that January. Nothing stopped me, I planned each one for the last week before next chemo, and sometimes earlier. Tired or not, but with high spiritis I travelled from the UK to Rio; New york; Rome; Tuscany; Germany; Bulgaria; Dubai; Greece. My husband came on some trips, on others I even went alone.. Life is too short, as long as we have plans .. we will just keep on going. And during that time milions of people died who DID NOT HAVE CANCER. No warning, a plain crash; a terrosim act; starvation; tsunamies, wars you name it.. I always say in many ways we are lucky - we have time for decisions and revisions and thoughts and spirituality and really really appreciating life now... that is a real joy, many dont get chance to feel.
There is one certain thing in life - death we will go through this, it is just a stage.. a door, you live your body like an old coat, but your spirit, if its strong now, oh my god it will always be strong.
Tell your husband just to keep going and when the doubts come into his head, wave them of, look at the sky, the trees the nature, it is so much permanence about things. Only god knows when me and your husband will be taken. It may be soon, it may be 30 years from now, or it may be a brick falls of on our heads tomorrow. No guarantees. Just because we have cancer it does not make us more mortal, just more aware of being mortal. And we are lucky, we know we have it and we are dealing with it; plenty out there still don't. Remember every third person gets cancer in their life time, but they don't all die from it.
Good luck to you both in this fight.
From another strong fighter
T