On 2/7/2008
smerk wrote:
This is also my first night useing this chat room. I just don't know where to turn to. Everyone in my mothers life is are so close to god that it seems they use him as an exscused to not be human and just feel something. Yes, I too belive in the bible but I also belive that god geve us feelings and loveing family and friends to support us when we are week. Please take it from the daughter of one touched by cancer... don't keep your last thoughts and feelings to yourself. It is sad that it takes something like cancer to make us want to live life fully alert but... maby that is just what it takes now days.
Keep kicking cancers butt. Love- all the daughters of servivors
Hi Smerk,
Although you and your mom have gone through a lot, I am glad to see that you are now rebuilding your relationship. I am also an adult daughter of protective parents. My dad has stage IV esophageal cancer. We (4 adult children) were never told that he was having any problems and that he had had surgery until his cancer diagnosis. I was very angry that my parents had kept this information away from us, but as a parent I understood completely. I find myself doing similar things (on a much smaller level) with my own children.
As far as the God thing goes...I am a christian and believe in God with my whole body, heart, and soul. Throughout this crisis in my life I have relied on God for everything. I've had to-cancer makes you feel completely helpless. Yes, I have felt angry, hurt, scared, and so very sad, and continue to feel that way, but God has given me a peace that goes beyond all understanding. I have a sneaking suspicion that your mom has experienced this too. I don't know how my dad got cancer or why he got it. But I do know that God is teaching me a lot about trusting Him moment by moment with the unknown and living by faith knowing that whatever the circumstances, He is truly working it all out for the good of His children and for His glory.
Why don't you start by telling your mom how you feel and then ask her how she is handling the circumstances so well. Pray that your mom will begin to see you as an adult child rather than a young child. That's a very hard thing for a mother to do. As you become closer and closer with your mom I am sure you will be with her when she gets "down." Everything is not alright, but your mom has the assurance that no matter how bad things get here on other earth, that God will never leave or forsake her.
I hope that things continue to improve between you and your mother. Cherish the time you have with her.