I am very sorry for the loss of your mother. And, I am also an ovarian cancer patient. I learned of my stage 3C diagnosis on July 2, 2007, about the same time as your mom.
During the fall season my chemo treatment was working and then stopped working. I was on carboplatin and taxol. My doctor recommended, and I just completed, surgery to remove the new tumor growth. I also had the procedure called, Intraperitoneal Hyperthermic Chemotherapy (heated chemo inserted into the abdomen immediately following surgery). The next step after I heal (4 weeks since surgery today), is to start chemo again. This time they are growing the cancer in a lab and hoping to find a chemo that works.
I speak from my heart when I thank you for the advice you have given. I am not looking forward to the chemo, and on some days don't want to take any more. I have had a lot of unpleasant side effects from the four rounds I already endured, and do not want to re-live them. I'm still hopeful that maybe this last procedure has done the job, but I'm also prepared if it hasn't.
You are right, people are being selfish because they want me to live, even if it means taking a detrimental treatment. I may have to disappoint them in order to have quality time. Thanks to you I feel confirmed in my justification of this decision should I choose this route. I am 48, which makes it all the harder to make such a choice. I hope I won't have to.... Please take care of yourself, and I hope you are comforted in knowing your mom is no longer suffering. Thank you for writing what you did.
Kelly