First off he is overwhelmed, his parents have issues and now he is facing a deadly form of cancer. Email daily if you can. I would suggest he contact Cancer Treatment Centers of America www.cancercenter.com they have live help. His disease is deadly so he needs to attend to it immediately.
He needs to have someone take over the care of his parents. Do they have relatives? Does he need financial assistance, Can he afford in home help or nursing home help. If so then the parents will just have to go.
He needs to take care of himself first. This decision is not selfish but one of survival. Find someone nearby to be an advocate for him with his parents and himself. He is muddled and can't make decisions well when depressed. Visit when you can. He has a great friend all the best. MMS
On 2/24/2008
ja83ja wrote:
I'm new here and just need some advice. One of my very dear friends was just diagnosed with MM a couple of days ago. He is 44 and was already the primary caregiver for his parents. His father also has cancer (different type) and his mother has severe alzheimers. Now this. I live in Co and he's in NY. What's the best way that I can show him support? I was already planning a trip to see him in the next week, but now it's taken on a new meaning. Right now he is very depressed. Any suggestions?
Thanks for any help on this....