Dear daughterinva,
My advice would be to tell you to be firm with your doctor. If you are absolutely positive that you are not having anymore children then make sure you leave no doubt of that in your doctor's mind. If I were in your shoes I would definitley want the hysterectomy. That is how I would feel. Of course, no on can tell you what to do as it is your choice.
I had an abnormal pap back in April and I talked with several medical personnel that told me because of my age they would give me the hysterctomy if it were left up to them. I am 35 as well. When I spoke with my doctor at the time of the ECC that he did, he was not closed to the possibility as I am definitely not having anymore children either. My husband is not able to have anymore and he told me that we would talk more about it depending on what the biopsy results showed. Luckily, everything came back OK but I did explain to him that it has been my feeling that if I ever had an abnormal pap and it turned out to be dysplasia of any kind I just want the hysterectomy so that I don't have to worry about that type of cancer.
Just make sure that you are 100% sure and once you decide exactly what you want to do, leave no doubt in the doctors mind or they will not do it. My family physician told me that.
I just wanted to share my experience with you and I wish you the best! I would definitely be considering the same option that you are.
:)
Chris