Hi Mike! I think of you and Alyssa often and am glad to hear from you!! I am so touched that you made your trip to Disneyworld with Alyssa! I'm sure it was bittersweet for you as so many things will be. As far as your rings, Mike, there is no right or wrong. You love your wife with all your heart and you were there for her 1000%. Now, I feel you need to do what makes your healing process easier. The glimpses we got of Shannon through your sharing her with us told me that she was such a colorful woman. A woman who not only lived but LOVED TO LIVE!! She sounded like someone full of life and spirit and joy and happiness. Mike, I know it is impossible to fully feel this yet, but Shannon wants you to live life and love life like she did! What better tribute to her!! I feel that is the what she would want to teach Alyssa too. My mom lost my dad at 75 and was with him a total of 61 years (including friendship and dating). It's been almost a year and it is tough!! Half of her whole being is gone!! But, she knows my Dad loved to live and wants her to live too as well as me and my brother. Mike, Shannon KNOWS the love you have for her. I know she would be okay with you taking off your ring, or switching hands or piercing your nose with it for that matter :-) or even putting it in a special place. Nothing will change your love for her. She knows that!! Mike, there is no right or wrong way to "be". Just "be". It's all okay my friend. You can always lay your head down at night and be proud of the husband your were and the father you are!! It's so good to hear from you Mike. I don't post much, but check the board all the time still, so, if you can, keep us updated now and again. God speed Mike! Stay in touch please!~ Karen