I have no problem with the Oxycontin for pain. I actually encourage her to take it as soon as she feels the pain beginning. The other drug (that she won't take & I haven't encouraged, although we did pick it up from the pharmacy) has a side effect that I am questioning if it is the best choice. If it helps with her anxiety but it is damaging to the liver (rushing it's demise) is it worth taking?
Yes, I know how serious the cancer is. Yes, I want her to take whatever will help ease the pain (whether it's physical pain or emotional pain). I think you must've misunderstood my concern. Maybe my fingers didn't type what my mind was thinking.
As for the trusting of the Dr. - I do - Dr. Kim at Mayo is not who she's going to though. She opted to take Gemzar chemo at her local hospital instead of the clinical trial chemo drugs at Mayo in Jacksonville. My father and I agree to let her make the decisions for treatment, we will support her. But we do want to make her aware of everthing so she can make wise decisions upon being informed.