Annie,
I had a radical nephrectomy in Dec 06; they also removed both adrenal glands. My incision was a "chevron" shaped that extended across my mid-section. I was hospitalized for a week and it took nearly 2 months to recover at home. I believe everyone recovers a bit differently from any type of surgery. I am still somewhat sensitive around the incision site but all things considered, the recovery was at times challenging but tolerable. Loose fitting clothing and a generous amount of patience is important. Bless you and your husband - I am hoping for the best possible outcome...