I want to help my friend with cancer, but there are forces at work here greater than me. It's not
just cancer. That sounds like a cakewalk, just cancer. In reality, she's a
complex person. It's all so logical
to me: Someone has cancer so you make their lives super-comfortable and
give them all they need so they can get better quickly. That's what I'm thinking. She's thinking let's keep
things as normal as possible. Let's try to make this as minimal an
interruption. Let's not bother anyone. Somehow I've crept
through that brick wall and she leans on me. But no one else can know,
that's her dream. She doesn't want to do anything weak. She doesn't
want to feel like life is passing her by. My paradigm cannot survive in
her paradigm.
Have you run into this paradox?