My grandparents came to live with us (my parents and I) in December, and it's been a blessing to get to know them but it has been very difficult. Grandma was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer last summer and is now in the final stages. She stopped chemotherapy last week. The hospice nurse said she probably has less than 3 weeks.
Grandma is very comfortable with the idea of death, and with all th pain Grandma is experiencing, this has become a bit of a curse. She has started to get dementia the last week or so, and is not who she was before any longer. She's become very paranoid, especially when it has been more than an hour since her last dose of morphine. I think she thinks that my mother (the one who usually gives her the morphine) is trying to keep her around longer by giving her the pain medication (she thinks that it's curing her somehow), and all she wants to do is die.
So in her confusion she is resisting taking the medicine and ends up in intense pain and I think feelings of withdrawal. My instinct is to get the medicine in her however possible, but if she's fighting it that would entail holding her arms or something. Am I in the wrong in considering doing this? Has anyone else had to deal with a situation like this?