Hi,
I'm so sorry you have felt so much pain from this. I had a partial vulvectomy and vulvaplasty in December 07. I was very tender and it did burn a lot when I urinated. But my doctor sent me to the pet store (I know this sounds weird) but I bought ocean sea salt and I mix this with water and took a sitz bath 3 times a day. I had the water good and warm. This really help me tremendously. I also used tucks pads. Hope this helps.