My last message was trying to decide to use Tarceva or not. We tried and all it did was give her terrible diarrhea so we stopped.
We (her husband, one daughter and myself) decided to stop trying to come up with some medicine and just to let her die. The doctor said she needed blood so they gave her two pints but she has been totally incoherant and wants to get out of bed all the time and says she has to go and then nothing happens. She seems to have panic attacks about every hours. Now, they have her on heavy medication and want her to stay at the hospital till she dies but that means she has to be on TPN (food supplement) and that will prolong her death. I understand the reason for the TPN is that the insurance company won't pay for her to stay at the hospital unless she is on TPN. It does seem ironic that you can't be in the hospital and die unless the insurance company says so. I am very upset with the whole process and it's hard to sit and just watch her slowly fade away and not be able to help anymore. Do any of you know what to look for at the end of life. I watch her all the time but don't know what I should be seeing. Anything will be helpful. Thank you.