Thanks for the information. I am feeling like the doctor was more of a surgeon and did his part and has kind of left her/the family hanging. I am trying not to jump to conclusions and be fair, but it seems more logical to me that even though she can't have chemo/radiation until she is recovered from the surgery, we should at least be going over what the results from the surgery produced and then what this means as for options? I mean thier are at least 2 options, treatment or not taking treatment and either way, what is the qualitly and span of life with either option? It will be 2 weeks exacatly tomorrow since her operation, over all she is looking great, eating, moving and really I think she would be fine at home with a little assistance as she tires quickly, but am I being an over-bearing daughter wanting to push things faster than normal? Should I cut this doctor slack and just wait until my mother is healed up from surgery to even start consulting Oncologists? The surgeons assistant did call me back to day and did give me a referal to a local oncologist, but why when she was in the hospital didn't they have someone onsite come and just speak to us about the options as they inferred was going to happen?
I am just confused, this is really my first first hand experience with the healthcare system, is this normal that the medical professionals seem so cold and callus? Aren't game plans normally formulated? what is this wait and hurry up and wait and wait crappola???
June