On 4/28/2008
sissummer wrote:
Thanks for the information. I am feeling like the doctor was more of a surgeon and did his part and has kind of left her/the family hanging. I am trying not to jump to conclusions and be fair, but it seems more logical to me that even though she can't have chemo/radiation until she is recovered from the surgery, we should at least be going over what the results from the surgery produced and then what this means as for options? I mean thier are at least 2 options, treatment or not taking treatment and either way, what is the qualitly and span of life with either option? It will be 2 weeks exacatly tomorrow since her operation, over all she is looking great, eating, moving and really I think she would be fine at home with a little assistance as she tires quickly, but am I being an over-bearing daughter wanting to push things faster than normal? Should I cut this doctor slack and just wait until my mother is healed up from surgery to even start consulting Oncologists? The surgeons assistant did call me back to day and did give me a referal to a local oncologist, but why when she was in the hospital didn't they have someone onsite come and just speak to us about the options as they inferred was going to happen?
I am just confused, this is really my first first hand experience with the healthcare system, is this normal that the medical professionals seem so cold and callus? Aren't game plans normally formulated? what is this wait and hurry up and wait and wait crappola???
June
Dear June, Sometimes these doctors act like prima donnas and just leave us hanging.
I had the exact stage two b cancer your mom had with one lynph node involved, They did the same surgery, I was in the hospital two weeks and they sent me home to come back in two weeks. On my return visit is when they told me about the lymph node. They then referred me to an oncologist and and a rad oncologist. They got together to decide the best treatment for me and decided to put me on chemo Xeloda, five pills a day and at the same time 28 treatments of radiology. I had the surgery Apil 2, 2004 and they started the chemo and rad in July. They wanted my body to have a little time to heal. I lost 12 lps after the surgery and another 24 during the chemo and rad. I have gained 15 of that back. I now weigh 116 I have never been a very large woman I37 at my biggest.
So far I am cancer free. I go back to Duke MedicalCenter on May 9th. I don't feel any different so I hope I am okay. They gave me a 20% chance in o4. I told them I was going to be n the 20% Best of luck to you gus. Keep posting. and I will keep praying.