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Subject: Need Advice.
Date: 07/01/2005
I found this site looking for some insight. This is my first time visiting. I was hopeing to find some advice. My girlfriend's mother has recently been diagnosed with liver cancer and has been given only several months. This has been some very trumatic news for the whole family. Most of the caregiving has fell on my girlfriend and she has taken this very hard. My girlfriend has lived at home her whole life so her mom has always been there for her as well. I really want to be there and be supportive but I have been met with resistance. My girlfriend and I have never really had any problems in our relationship but this terrible news has had a real negative effect. She has had to put our relationship "on hold" and will not have anything at all to do with me. This is not like her at all. Days before we found out the news we were talking of marriage. She has informed me that she no longer has time for me. I understand that she needs her time and space to deal with this, but she will not accept any help from me nor does she stay in contact. I also have been very close to her family which makes this really hard for me, I worked with her mom for 3 years. I feel so bad for her mother because I love her very much, and I don't want to see her go as well. I am so sad that with my absense I may never see her living again. I have only wanted to help my girlfriend through this. I have spent three months researching and trying to learn as much as I can about cancer so I can be supportive, and helpful. My girlfriend has a pre school age daughter to take care of and a sick father, so I can understand she is very busy and very stressed. She has recently been put on several types of medications for stress and depression. I to have had to seek help for depression for this chain of events has had its effects on me as well. I just want to be there for them, and don't understand why they would reject me. I love them all very much and I know they care about me too. Please, if anyone has had a similar experience or could give me some sort advice I would be very thankful. I no longer know what I can do and dont want to give up.

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