Dear survival spouse. Thank you so much for responding. Your advice has really made a difference. I read your reply and called my ex to see how things were going, it was the first time I have talked to her in 3 weeks. I asked her how things were going with her mom, and her. She has informed me that things are going pretty well. I kept the conversation short and sweet and asked her to call me later so we could talk. She said she would. Im not real sure if she will ever really let me back into her life and family. The news of her mom has taken a very big toll on her. I understand completly she is going through the hardest time in her life. Her mother and her are closer than any one I have ever seen. I just miss them so very much, and wish there was more I could do. I also understand that this is a private time for them, and maybe she is just protecting me from the situation. They have some close friends that are there all the time and are always helping with things maybe they feel my help is not needed. I really hope there is some improvement in her moms condition, but the doctors seem to think things are grim. Maybe I will get a call later and can try to let her know that I am always here. If she sees I can handle things perhaps there will be some change for the better. I will just give her the time and space she needs if I dont hear from her and hopefully she will someday remember that I tried with all my heart and soul. thank you again and I hope things find you well.