My husband and I have had a rough "start" to marriage. After the chemo I went back to school to get my masters. I lost my job in the process of taking care of him - so, I needed a fresh start. Things were difficult after he had finished chemo. Where as I had done everything around the house for a full year - he didn't seem to notice things that needed to be done. It was constant fighting to get him to help me again. Honestly, there were many times that I wanted to leave - to just give up. I felt like he didn't understand what I had to go through. I know he had the physical pain - but I shared the emotional pain. There were times when I felt neglected by everyone. I felt like I was the messenger - no one cared how I was or how hard it was for me. No one really thinks about that - unless they've gone through it themselves. I felt almost resentful that I had given up so much (my job, my time, my energy, my sanity, my strength) to help him and he was not thankful. Things got better for awhile - but then he lost his job (we believe based on increased insurance costs) - and without me working fulltime - we were about 3/4 short on our income. Plus, he was depressed and again couldn't help me out around the house.
Recently, though, things have gotten a lot better. He's gotten a new job and I'm out of school for the summer and only working part time- which is a lot more relaxing. We are able to do more fun things and have been finding new ways to have fun - for free!! Its been a journey - to say the least and we are still on that road. But, I learned a lot from going through the chemo with him - you have to look at every beautiful moment that life throws at you and amplify it the max!!!
I hope things go well for you!! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!! Stay positive as much as you can! Please keep me updated.