Joe,
I am no expert on Cancer or on relationships, but I do have some advice for you.
First, check out this guy's website:
http://cancergen.com
Here is his link to Liver Cancer Websites:
http://cancergen.com /liver
I also suggest that you explore this website for information on liver cancer.
As for your relationship with your girlfriend...
Dear Abby I am NOT...however...
"Sudden Bad News Syndrome" can cause even the most rational person to react in totally opposite ways to what is normal for them.
"Sudden Bad News Syndrome" is my term for what happens when we hear something devastating, such as the impending death of a loved one.
Rarely does this apply to those unfortunate enough to have that 3 a.m. knock on the door by the Highway Patrol with a request to go try to identify a son, daughter, husband or wife.
"Sudden Bad News Syndrome" can cause a person to cut off everything and every one around them that is not an essential part of dealing with the Bad News. In your girlfriends case, she heard that her Mother, whom she has been with all her life, is going to DIE. (Insert HUGE fonts for the word DIE. I used all caps to indicate that the word should be screamed because that is the way your girlfriend heard of her Mother' Cancer. If the words were whispered, to her ears it was as if they were screamed through the largest PA system on the planet...worthy of a Ted Nugent concert setup.)
Your girlfriend has cut you off, most likely, so she will not have to deal with what she perceives as your "intimate" requests for her attention. Even if you have never been "demanding" of intimacy, she may think that you will become that way because she will be / is spending all her time with her Mother.
(Just to be sure, I am not speaking only about sex, but about going out, spending time together, etc. Those things that make a relationship "intimate" between two people.)
The part that is so confusing is that she has dropped all contact with you.
She may be afraid that you will be angry with her, or make demands that will upset her.
It could be a thousand things that she has decided on that she will avoid simply by avoiding you.
You are getting indformation from someone...may I inquire whom it is?
Have you sent her a letter through the US Mail? (Or if you are not in the US, whatever mail system your home planet...I mean country...uses.)
My advice, regardless of anything else, is to just stand back, let her know that you love her, support her in whatever decisions she is making, or has already made, and let her know in no uncertian terms that you will be waiting for her. Let her know that you are hurting for her mom. Let her know that you want to do whatever it is that needs to be done for her mother.
Ask her to please call you so you will know where you stand in her life. Are you back-burnered or cast-off?
If she informs you that it is over between you and her, then do her mother a huge favor and just let it go. There will be time after for you and your girlfriend to revisit any such decision. You may choose to move on with your life, and that's your right. Personally, I'd wait and see what comes later.
But above all, keep the respect for her mother above everything else.
I really hate this part, but I have to say it because things do not sound too promising. I am not trying to shoot you down, but if her Mother is as bad as you say she is, then she most likely will not pull through. Cancer is an evil Monster that we can only beat back into temporary submission. In the long run, The Monster wins most battles, eventually. It's just the truth. I know there are exceptions, and she may be one...that is why we pray for each and every victim that this Monster takes between it's foul teeth.
I'll be brief with this part...My Story...
Two months ago my 76 year old mother found out she is NOT diabetic, but instead she has been attacked by the Pancreatic Cancer Monster.
On June 7th she went through a 5.5 hour Whipple surgery.
The pathology returned with news that four out of fourteen lymph nodes that were removed were cancerous. The report on the portion of the pancreas that was removed showed that the cancer went right up to the surgical cut, meaning that there was some that was left behind.
Radiation and Chemo are prescribed, and Mom may start the Radiation in another week or so. She may not complete it if it is too rough on her.
When the doctor came out after doing an ERCP on Mom and told me, flat out and without holding back that she had a tumor in the head of her pancreas and it looked cancerous...I was devastated. I'm almost 46 years old, and I am not a man that is prone to crying.
I did that day.
We have put it all in God's hands now. It's his plan anyway so why go against it?
Joe, I hope some of this helps you. If there is anything I can try to help you with, let me know.
David