I think that the ill person just has to say, I don't want to fight anymore. The caregiver MUST leave it up to the sick one and assure them that they will fight with them as long as they want to fight. There was one time in 2004 when I had suffered through surgery and was in the middle of chemo and rad, I was throwing up like crazy and diahrea was hitting me every hour, I had sores in my mouth and as far down my throat as I could see and this had been going own for weeks, my daughter said Mom its okay if you want to give up and I was on my way back from the bathroom with her holding me up and I remember saying maybe tomorrow sweethart, but not today. Today I'm at work, just got back from the beach this weekend I feel wonderful, but a little apprehensive because this Friday I go back for the usual CT and blood workup. But its been four years!!!!! I know howyou feel about giving up,but you can't, it will get better.
My prayers are with you and all of your loved ones.
Gerri