Hi, friends of message board. I am also looking for "the" answer. My husband was told this week after 10 months of horrible chemo and several weeks of radiation that there is nothing more to be offered. The ca has spread so the chemo nightmare has been for nothing. Do we just wait to see where it goes to next and how long before it destroys his body? He is suffering sooo bad even on huge amounts of morhpine( he has mets to the ribs and T5,8&9) I am having a hard time accepting this even though the chemo I hated. Guess I am just emotional. Thanks for any help and sorry I had none for you. Take care.