I remember having the exact same feeling you are having and thinking the worse. My mom diagonosed in Sept with NSCLC with mets to brain and adrenals, and i feared the worse. My mom did do WBRT and 6 cycles of chemo and it did, I believe buy her more time, maybe not the best quality but more time. I am happy for the time I have with her, but it is very hard to watch someone deteroiate right before you. I always let my mom make her own deccissions as to what she wanted, never talked about her being terminal, we just talk about living and that is what she is doing. You seem like a wonderful person, so keep up the good work.