Dear Becky, I feel so torn for you and your family. It sounds as though your mom has had 'enough' and has chosen her own way to manage what will happen next. Being there with her - even if she is not coherent - has to be a positive move, and I've heard many times that when people are in coma's they can still hear people talking to them, but they can not respond. So, on that thought, if you are there playing for your momma she will know that you are there and that you are sharing your gift with her and I'm sure that she would be grateful. And, perhaps, you will have times of clarity -- who knows? For without the kidney treatment it certainly doesn't look promising, as well as the list of other problems that she faces - her body has been surviving for quite some time. God be with you and your family as you face the next few weeks together. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Cath