On 6/2/2008
beamama wrote:
Can anybody tell us how long my Dad might have??? The doctors want give us any straight answers. He is 77yrs.soon to be 78. He started chemo 8 wks. ago. He is very weak,mouth sores,coughing up blood. The Drs. dont seem to be concern but we are. We are afraid this is the end. He has no will, we lost our Mother in March. He is still grieving.I guess I just need someone to talk to.
THANKS,
BEA
Bea,
I am so sorry and feel your pain. My dad is not getting straight answers from his doctors, but i also think that he does not want to hear the truth.I don't even have the heart to tell him as I too am in denial a bit and don't want my dad to give up on the fight to live as long as possible.My dad knows that on torisel the information says that the average life
expectancy on the drug is 11 months. So he is defiantly knowing it is
sooner than latter. I am also telling my dad to get things in order he is 62 years old. He is starting to. I work in the cancer field and the doctors I work with have told me that My father has anywhere from months to years, depending on how the target agent torisel works. My dad too has stage iv renal cell cancer. It is the hardest thing to have to go through losing a parent. i wish that this was not the reality, but we have to also focus on spending good quality time and enjoy them everyday and live as much as possible as we will have time to be mad, sad and all the other emotions that go along with this and miss them when they are gone.
It is hard to say how long your dad mine, or anyone else's has as we are not God, there is not enough info as to where the cancer has spread. How extensive it is. I however from reading these responses from patients believe anything can happen. You should talk to your father about setting up his wishes as to how he want things to be done. His will, advance directives so there are no questions that you will make as your father gets towards the end. He is probably having a hard time dealing with it all. Aslo, I am so sorry to hear of your mother's passing.
Good luck and bless you and your family.
C