thank you for the advice...i won't feel guilty anymore for prodding him along...
funny you should mention watching home repair shows...we are not tv watchers (we don't have cable and get all of 2 stations!) but when i got home from work yesterday he said that he stayed awake and watched some home building things on public tv!! he had also had finished up with his feedings for the day. this morning he got up and prepared his own "breakfast".
perhaps things are looking up...we see the oncologist tomorrrow and i will ask him how much he should expect to be doing right now.
again...thanks for helping me get some perspective on all this.
~meesh