On 5/15/2008
liltoflaughter wrote:
God Bless you and your family! Thank you for your response. I can see the value of this message board!
Monday I have surgery to biopsy my tonsil area - my tonsils were removed when I was 18 and the following Thursday I meet with the oncologist for an assessment and probably more testing. They do suspect the primary is in the tonsil area.
Quite a change of lifestyle - I, too, am 60 and a widowed single-mom to a 19 year old boy who wants to be involved with this process. We will get through this and I thank you so much for your honesty. I suspected the treatments would be rough and I know that I will want to say "STOP" - AND, I will not stop because I want to live a long life.
We are getting organized this week and pulling together our support group. God, family, friends.....Isn't that what life is truly about? When something like this hits home, life really condenses to what is important.
You are so right. God, family, friends. Sometimes you don't realize the value until you need to. I hope your son is open to reading these postings. Let him help you - we caregivers really want to. It will be difficult because he is your son and young. I had difficulty even letting my grown children who live nearby help out - didn't want to burden them. But I'm THE MOM. So in your preparations, and while you still have some good energy, try to see that he has at least someone (maybe one of the nurses at your chemo or radiology) that he can talk to. The nurses are just wonderful shoulders. And keeping in touch with us on the 'boards will help him. If you or he ever want someone to email when you're low....
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http://www.cancercompass.com/common/guidelines.html-- . Good luck to you. It may not seem like it, but you will wake up one morning and be on the mend.
Gwen