I am very sorry about the results. You and your father are in my thoughts and prayers go out to you for strength for the coming days. This is very difficult. The doctors wanted to put my husband in a nursing home. He's 53. I felt he didn't need to be there. My concern with hospice was that if I couldn't take care of him what was going to happen. The hospice nurse told me that there is a "hospice room" at our local hospital. I can handle that if need be, but not a nursing home. This morning my husband couldn't understand how to move his feet to go three steps to the wheel chair with me. This afternoon, he couldn't help raise himself from the wheelchair to get in the recliner or bed. Each day faces another challenge. Sometimes I am not certain how I will do it. But I do know that I need to take care of myself, too. Please remember this because it is necessary for us to be there for our loved one. I can't stop what is happening. I can be with him even if it means not being the care giver until the end. God be with you.