but i dont want to get my neighbor in trouble. Ok so i guess i should give a little history. Just a few months ago my neighbour told me that my other neighbour across the street has breast cancer. She had just undergone a mastectomy and was going to need very extensive chemo and radiation. My neighhour was told to keep it a secret, but told me because she was having a hard time dealing with it and she trusts me not to spread it around. I was outside talking to both of them not long ago and if you hadn't told me, i wouldn't have noticed the mastectomy. I guess you just don't look in that area when you are talking with someone. I didn't want to make it obvious. At that time her chemo hadn't started so she still looked pretty much the same. Since then i was told that she had several chemo treatments. You can tell because my neighbour has started to wear head scarfs and looks weaker. I haven't had the chance to talk with her, as she hasn't been outside alot. I so desperately want to offer my assistance and support but just don't know how to approach this without 'outing' the neighbour who told me about it all. I kinda wish she hadn't told me because if and when my neighbour decides to share this with me I don't know how to react. I understand how horrible cancer is on the family as i just recently lost my father to pancreatic cancer and my mother was diagnosed shortly after with leukemia. I just want to be there for her. I find myself peeking out the window when she is outside to see how she is doing. I worry terribly about her and only have good intentions. How do you think i should deal with this? She has small children and it breaks my heart that such a lovely person is battling cancer. But i also know that if there is anything i can do to lessen her burden i would do it in a heartbeat. Please help.