Hi -
I've posted here a couple of times regarding my husband who has colon cancer stage IV with mets to the liver and has now also spread in his small intestine. Surgery is no longer an option for him, according to his oncologist and that he will just continue to get chemo. At first I didn't have the gut to asked the oncologist about my husband's prognosis because maybe I was in denial. But I've talked to his relatives and I was convinced to asked about his prognosis. This will also help me prepare. When my husband was receiving chemo treatment, his oncologist came down to see him, and right when my husband had to use the restroom I took the opportunity to asked the oncologist if he thinks my husband will get better. His answer was unfortunately not, he's condition will actually worsen. So I took the courage to asked how long did he have, he said months. Right when I heard months, I was speechless. Then my husband walks in and I pretended everything was ok. I asked the oncologist if he thinks I should tell my husband he said for now, don't because he didn't want him to loose hope and just give up. It has now been about 3 weeks I think she's I've found out about his prognosis. We've been in and out of the hospital weekly due to problems with his bowel obstruction. He hasn't been able to eat and is on TPN. Now I don't know if I should call the oncologist back and asked exactly how many months. I'm thinking if my husband had a year to live, the oncologist would have said a year instead of months. He's loosing weight each day and is now at the hospital recovering from a gastric vent surgery. A gastric vent was put because we were going in and out of the hospital for his bowel obstruction and he ends up getting an NG Tube each time. And those are very uncomfortable. His heart rate has been in the 160's and Dr.s are saying it's due to his pain. He's a pain patch, and dillaudid for break through pain med. When I see him go through so much pain, I sometimes wish that God just take him so he can rest in peace and have no more pain. It hurts to even think about him dying, but it also hurts to see him in pain.