My husband was diagnosed with stage IV Renal cancer in Sept 2004. At that time most people lived less than 12 months with that. Doctors don't really know how long a patient will live. Everyone is different. There are so many life-extending medications now. It was hinted at several times that Doug probably did not have much time left. He was actually in home hospice care about 15 months ago. But his health improved enough after 6 months to leave hospice and go on a newly approved treatment.
It has been, and continues to be, a very hard battle. I understand the difficulty of seeing your loved one in pain. It is unbearable at times. But I am so glad he is still here and still fighting. Just try to remain strong. My best wishes for both of you.
Chris